Fandango’s Provocative Question #82. Each week I will pose what I think is a provocative question for your consideration. By provocative, I don’t mean a question that will cause annoyance or anger. Nor do I mean a question intended to arouse sexual desire or interest. What I do mean is a question that is likely to get you to think, to be creative, and to provoke a response. Hopefully a positive response. My provocative question this week is about self-evaluation.
Do you judge yourself by the same standards that you judge others? If not, are you harsher or more lenient on yourself?
Though I try not to, I tend to be quite harsh on myself often. I do set a higher standard for myself than what I expect from others, which leads to disappointments and frustrations. Of late, I’ve even stopped or backed out of many things for the fear of failure. It’s not what others would think of me (I’ve grown a lot since the taunts and recriminations of nosy-parkers could bring down my morale); but what I would start to think of myself.
It might sound silly to some people, but to someone whose struggled with inferiority complex and self-esteem issues, it becomes draining after a while. Someday, I’d like to be able to relax and go easy on myself; but that’ll take some time.
Except from a few very important people in my life, past experiences have taught me not to expect too much from others. And keeping the bar low, it feels good to be surprised when others go beyond what I’d expected of them.